Sunday, November 20, 2016
WHEN EXPECTATION FAILS
"The way people deal with things that go wrong is an indicator of how they deal with change." ---Roberto Goizueta
On college campuses in the U.S. there are "cry-ins," disappointed and distraught student exam dispensations, and regiments of counselors made available to student Clinton supporters who have yet to accept that their candidate did not win.
In the streets in many of the nation's major cities, there are protests and, in some, violent riots because Donald Trump won the election for president of the United States.
The subject is change, and how most persons deal with change is not the concern here. How those in recovery from addiction deal with change is the concern.
What is it going to take for you to say "To hell with it!" and pick up that drug? Whatever it is you have set aside for a good enough excuse for going back to using is called a "back door." If this happens, then what's the point in staying clean? If my mate leaves me, if I lose my children, if I get fired from my job, if I go bankrupt, if my health takes a turn for the worse, if taxes go up, if Trump wins the election . . .
If all those things happen, don't pick up. There is no disappointment you will ever experience that cannot be made worse by using.
And to all those celebrating, don't pick up. Committing suicide is not an intelligent way to celebrate victory.
The key is acceptance. As the great sage once said, "Some days you're the pigeon and some days you're the statue."
Face the day clean and find the happy spots.